About Ruthie

The perfect life? I thought I was living the life of my dreams: A husband I adored, three amazing children, beautiful home, close friends.  But, you see –

Life never reaches a pinnacle that can’t crumble. And if you think you have…

Think avalanche! — Unstoppable devastation; uncontrollable loss; a total reshaping of the entire landscape – a GPS re-positioning. That’s what happened to my “perfect life.”

Just when I felt like life was in a place as good as it had ever been, turmoil began to quake, burying me under devastation and tragedy.

After attempts to re-sculpture an unhealthy marriage, my husband made the decision to walk out on 30 years of marriage. Left to face life alone for the first time with two sons 18 and 21, and a daughter 11, I went back to work after many years of being a stay-at-home mom, heart ripped and torn. The pain cut deep while daily struggles abounded.

Heart laid open, it was only a mother’s love for my babies that encapsulated me with the strength to dig my way out, gasp for breath and take it a day at a time. Each day brought a little more clarity to see the truth; the lies I’d believed, as well as the long-forgotten dreams and sacrificed passions and purposes.

It was all a path that led to an insatiable desire to Harold the message to so many people, especially women who were living the same soul-betraying life. Through that passion, those abandoned passions and love of writing were resuscitated and eventually authored my first book, Fireflies and became a certified Life Coach.

Little did I know, the avalanche had only just begun.

After five years of holding on to hope for restoration of my marriage, my husband took his own life by a gun to the head, leaving our oldest son to find him.

The next five years were spent surviving, nurturing the shattered hearts of my children, while my own was but a shell. My daughter was now at college and just when it felt new life for all of us had found a new normal and was blossoming…

The worst nightmare for any mother came knocking on my door on a Sunday morning.

It was only days before the final edits of my book before going to print. The words of the policeman at my front door still echo. “Tina’s been in an accident, and she’s no longer with us.”

The impact of an avalanche is the only way I can now describe the crushing of the previous ten years and the ones that were to follow.

For months I could barely breathe and struggled to put one foot in front of the other. It was only the strength, peace, truth and heart abundance that had bloomed in my soul through through the difficult, heart-rending previous years were the gift that graced me now to throw off the wet clothes, seek the fire to comfort and warm, and finally excavate the tiniest spark of light. It was whispering, beckoning, enabling me to take the next breath, the next step. Would I, or even could I, follow that spark?

Or would I do what I wanted to do – lay down and die?

Choices — there’s always a choice. By the time a year had passed, Fireflies was finally published.

Now, that spark of inner light is a flame, brighter than any firefly’s glow, emanating through my writing, Life Coaching, and speaking with a message that will leave you knowing how to survive an avalanche and LET YOUR GLOW SHOW!!

A message so powerful it will make your toes tingle.