WHY IS CHANGE SO SCARY?
It’s a very obvious question, but rarely answered, right? Change is inevitable. It’s as sure as night turning to morning. So why is it so dang scary? Why do we so deeply wish everything to stay the same?
We see for ourselves change in every direction, every single day. Something along the road has been removed or something built that changed what we see every time we drive by it. You found out that the particular coffee you get every day is no longer available. Your kid’s shoes no longer fit.
I’ve been seeing parents post pictures of their kids from last Christmas, just one year ago and comment how they’ve grown and changed. Without change, life could be nothing but stagnate. We can blame a lot of not wanting change on nostalgia, however, we don’t grow into competent adults, or a senior with gained wisdom and life experience without constant change.
Friendships and relationships change for a host of reasons. We change up our hair style or color. We buy a new piece to our wardrobe. Where we live changes. Health can change overnight. Tastes in music change. Tastes in food changes. Things happen every day to change the world we live in.
But it seems new situations and information shakes us. Could it be that it’s because many changes shake our belief system? Yes, change makes us second-guess pretty much everything.
Could that be why we are bent to avoid change? Changing our mind sometimes is the hardest, because questioning reveals truth. But the truth about change is that changing what you believe signifies growth. Children reach their physical maximum growth as an adult. But growth is so much more than physical. From conception to death, we were never meant to stop growing.
The reason we commonly hear “change with the times” (mostly to older people) is because the older we get and the more resistant to change we are, we become stuck in a false reality wishing and pretending things would just stay the same.
What if we realized that change is the breath of life – life to your soul? It’s the ultimate anti-aging drug. What if we realized that “scary” is just a mind trick?
How many times have you thought, “there’s got to be more?” Seriously, how many times a day?
One of my favorite phrases is “There’s So Much More.” Well, guess what, that so much more doesn’t come without change, without facing the scary to take a risk or encounter criticism or push back.
Do you know how many stories there are about people that just decided, there’s got to be more, or, I just can’t do this anymore, and made the decision to do whatever it took to make the changes to live the life they wanted and deserved?
Some are celebrities today because they stopped seeing change as scary, but growing into what they really wanted. Some are stars on cooking shows, HGtv shows, best selling authors, and so on. The point is, they weren’t always celebrities but the way they became celebrities was a result of a choice, a choice that something in your life is not what you want, is causing you a lot of frustration and even anger, and has got to change. It could be anything, the smallest change to a huge something that seems radical.
I promise, the smallest change can make the biggest difference!
You simply have to see change as something you have power over and not as the big boogy man out to get you. The only way to do that is stop the excuses and stop waiting for the other shoe to drop and go with the knowing that “there’s so much more.” The result is a clearer, changed mind and an expanding heart.
I’m not one to push “New Year’s Resolutions,” but what if 2024 could be your “So Much More” instead of illusively thinking “there’s got to be so much more?”
This is a recurring thought because you soul knows it’s true. Every person living their best life simply answered the call and got in the face of SCARY.
And yes, most, celebrity or not, did this with some kind of support or help of some kind, whether a therapist, a good friend, a mentor, or a coach.
It’s why I do what I do.
This has been my passion for the last 20 years, so much so that I’m gifting you a free session. I hope you’re brave enough to take that first small step.
Just message or email me.
I wish you all the Merriest Christmas with love and light, and a Happy New Year with So Much More.
In the face of SCARY,
Ruthie
Ruthie Lewis at cox .net
Ruthie Lewis dot com