As many times as I’ve been told this all my life, it’s somehow a concept we either minimize, don’t understand or ignore altogether.
But your heart already knows!!
If there’s anything I’ve noticed in the last few years, it’s how easily we relent thinking for ourselves, and accept anxiety, anger, fear and hopelessness, allowing it to take over and tell us how we should think, feel, act, and worse, believe.
When I began coaching 20 years ago, it was a result of realizing how I’d lived my life for everyone else, their expectations, rules, and again worse, beliefs.
As much of a wake up call as it was, it was so much more than I realized at the time. I’ve watched many women realize their worth, and go on to recover their dreams that come from the heart of the person they were born to be, and that can only be lived through the joy and confidence of the heart.
Today, it has actually become harder and harder to lead someone back to their heart. There are many reasons, and there is so much going on in the world, however, it’s always about what we give our hearts to.
Not only do we listen to everyone else’s “shoulds” and narratives, we are less and less confident in our own hearts to know or admit what we really feel and believe. In other words, we no longer think for ourselves and have given over control of our hearts bit by bit.
~C.S. Lewis said this: “We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink, sex and ambition, when infinite joy is offered to us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies because he cannot imagine what is meant by an offer of a holiday at sea. We are far too easily pleased.”
But you know what? Nothing has changed the reality that we still have hearts that can live a life of peace, joy and confidence. No one gets to make your choices for you, criticism and attempts to control what you do or think don’t have to dictate your life.
We don’t have to settle and we don’t have to accept what we’re told as truth or the circumstances we are lulled into fearing.
Once this happens, enter the negative committee – as Carrie Green calls it. While her book, She Means Business is largely about woman entrepreneurship, it’s really about the joy and confidence already in us to eliminate self doubt of what we can do if we live by our innate inner compass.
We are so hard on ourselves, and it amplifies all our failures, regrets and self-doubt until we’re blinded by it’s narrative and can’t see what’s really possible, or all the joy and contentment our heart holds for us.
We all want the same things, great experiences, meaningful relationships, beauty and laughter, none of which the “negative committee” or cultural mind programming wants for you.
The one thing you have to have to live the heart’s joy and contentment is authenticity – not letting anyone or any programming narrative talk you out of who you authentically are.
I love what Jim Murphy calls the Affluenza Virus in his book Inner Excellence. It’s basically a mindset that values outward appearances and circumstances and believes cultural lies rather than the truth of the heart. He calls it PALMS –Possessions
Achievements
Looks
Money
Status
He describes it as setting your inner values as a result of comparison with others and what others think, as opposed to the values and joy of the heart.
Said simply, we are left with a divided heart severely malnourished and disoriented, unable to access the God-given light and joy life is meant to give us.
My quest has always been to help you Let Your Glow Show.
I want to invite you to please reply to this email and let me know the ways you know you aren’t living with the contentment or confidence and joy. I can’t tell you how many women tell me they’re pretty much miserable in their marriage, job, relationships, whatever it is, it’s confusion of what you believe and how you want to live in this world. But it doesn’t have to be this way.
If you have any question about issues, fear, confusion, or changes going on, I’m here for you, all you have to do is ask.
I want to get to know you!
Joyfully Letting My Glow Show,
Hugs,
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